Other times we maybe quite happy with an imposed change. It can be easier for us if the change is thrust upon us, such as when one partner in an unhappy relationship makes the decision first and leaves, or when we are made redundant from a job we disliked. We are absolved from making the decision. If things do not turn as we planned we can blame circumstances or oftentimes other people for what happens rather than ourselves. When a change is imposed we don’t have to face the prospect of making wrong decision of being responsible. We were forced into it. Strangely enough, if circumstances force us to make a change that proves to be very successful we are usually more happy to take credit for the outcome ourselves. Some of us only like to take the responsibility for our actions when we look like heroes. When we don’t look so good we like to blame the situation to others.

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